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Office Romance - When to come out of the closet?

Hi guys. I have a question... My bf and I met at work a year and a half ago. I no longer work at our old workplace anymore but he still does. Rumours about us dating were circulating during the time I was there but we never confirmed anything and kept things secret to maintain professionalism. I left the place months ago and we're pretty serious. We've met and spent time with each others folks, friends and we always spend time with each other every weekend and always call throughout the day. I can tell he's starting to feel insecure because he doesn't see me everyday anymore and due to the nature of my new job, I made some new friends and go to out dancing and to parties more often without him. He says that he feels left out sometimes and would like to meet my new clubbing buddies especially the guys - I guess to make his presence known. I also feel a little insecure because he's always been a flirty touchy-feely guy even before we started dating. There's currently a girl who sometimes drives him home cause they live close to each other who I know is a flirt because when I still worked there, she asked me if one of our male coworkers had a gf and even after she knew he did, she was still intent on stealing him from her - she failed though. Also, we used to have another ex-coworker who used to hit on him who he'd flirt with as well before (even though we were already together at the time) who still visits our old workplace on ocassion so chances are they'd still bump into each other while I'm not around. I'd really feel a lot better if we made our relationship public or if he at least made it clear that he has a gf. Our family and friends know, but not the people there. Should we come out of the closet? We can't possibly keep this a secret forever if we're serious. How would you suggest we go about this? Please share your input. Thanks.

Public Comments

1. invite him to a party or club or something, and if he brings his girlfriend you know that he has one. Or ask him straight out. say about being seriouss and stuff then just mention it to him. theres no point getting worried about this until you actually ask him
2. You should. There's no reason not to.
3. Go ahead! You don't work there anymore, so there's no reason it would cause stress in his workplace. Thus any former office-relationship barriers are removed. The only situation where that would not be true would be if for some reason the company forbid you to date, and your boyfriend could still get in trouble for it - but that would be a weird company so I don't think you have to worry about that.